I have been a stay at home mum for 5 years including maternity leave. Pre kids I was always one of those ladies who intended to return to work after children. Even when I was pregnant with my first child I could see myself going back to work after maternity leave had ended, that was until I had my baby. My whole world changed, my outlook on life altered and I just knew I could not return to work. This was my own personal choice and I am in no way dissing working mums as I think being a mum in general is the toughest job us ladies undertake. I admire working mums and would really love to know how you balance work life with mum life as I struggle enough just being at home never mind going out to work.
Here are my pros and cons of being a stay at home mum which was first published over at meetothermums.
The main con for me was going down to one salary and having to readjust my whole spending/budget. This was hard for me as I had always earnt my own money.
Being at home with your baby/toddler all day can be a very lonely place. I felt isolated and sad some days that I didn’t have anyone to talk to.
I had to make new friends, this was really hard for me as I have social anxiety and do not like putting myself into new and daunting situations like going to my first baby/toddler group on my own. It is really scary.
I have no time to myself whatsoever, I can’t even go to the toilet without one of my children following me.
The never ending chores and housework really get me down some days, I feel like I am always chasing my tail, I can never keep up with the amount of washing, the house needs hoovering at least 4 times a week and there is always a sink full of dishes.
I feel like I have freedom and am able to do things at a moments notice. I’m not tied down to a set routine now the children are that bit older. If I want to go out for the day I can or if we want to book a holiday and go during the week we can.
I don’t have any childcare costs, this is a big one for me as I had to rely on my mum when I went back to work for 6 weeks before handing my notice in.
I don’t have to deal with any office drama, gossip or bitchiness. This kind of behaviour in the working environment got me down and would give me anxiety.
If I’m feeling tired or a bit poorly I can sit on the sofa at 11am for a rest then crack on with my day.
I get to see what my chilren are eating and can have input into their diets. We try to make healthy choices but if we fancy an ice cream we will have one.
I get to teach my children at home, read books and draw.
As with all things in life there are pros and cons to everything. I’m not trying to paint a rosy picture or rub it in because trust me, being a stay at home mum some days is suffocating and utterly draining and I would love nothing more than to escape the tantrums and constant “mummy, mummy, mummy”. I find my escape in websites like meetothermums where I can talk to and relate to all mums.